know yourself better

know yourself better

melrose. R. Retnam

Self analysis and self searching are part of mature behavior. They also are characteristics of the individual, who is making a perfectly good adjustments. Our actions do not always satisfy us completely. Mistakes and temporary set backs raise such question as “Why did I do that ? How can I avoid social slips? “what are my assets ? Can I do better than I have been doing ? How can I improve my self ?”

Many problems may be merely symptoms of minor difficulties. Self analysis is enough to tell us that our present trouble is physical – caused by fatigue, poor nutrition or insufficinet Sleep. It may be due to financial difficulties. It may be the result of an unfavorable comparison with another person or being let down by a dearest friend. Self understanding may help us to analyse our selves and others to accept them and to learn how to deal with minor as well as major conflicts.

The individual establishes a satisfactory relationship or rapport with his environment. When he makes steady advancement towards meeting his needs, the fulfillment of needs results in healthy or other wise effective living. When needs are not met the individual functions ineffectively and unsatisfactoraly. In fact he is uncomfortable. Peoples’ actions are indications of their attempts to satisfy their needs. Some persons are happy, successful citizens who enjoy life while others become misfits, trouble makers, alcaholics and sociopaths.

Maslow’s heirarechy of needs characterises the individual’s personality development and adjustment. Five levels make up this heirarchy in which the satisfaction of higher level needs is founded on the adequate satisfaction of lower level needs.

The first level includes the basic physiological needs such as food and sex, the second, the safety from external dangers, the third the need for love and affection from others, the fourth the need for self esteem and the respect and esteem of others and the, fifth the need for self realisation through achivement

Basic needs

These are the primary needs of every living thing. It is the starting point of motivation. The need is to maintain physical well being and to satisfy tensions caused by hunger, thirst, fatigue,sex stress, lack of sleep and physical pain. If these basic needs are not satisfied all other needs are suppresed or otherwise do not exist. When these physiologcal needs are satisfied, at once other higher needs emerge.

Safety needs

Living safely may be a person’s strongest desire. This can be more clearly seen in children than in adults. A child frantically clinging to his parents shows their parents’ role as protectors. Most adults have their safety needs adequately satisfied because they may have few dangers to fear. The need is felt when illness strikes in the event of injury, during war, or when natural catasrophes occur.

Love and affection needs

These needs are concerned with both giving and getting love and affection. The individual needs to love and to be loved. This may be expresed in the longing for friends, parents brothers & sisters life partners, children and affectionate relation with people in general.

Esteem needs

These needs can be classified in two groups : desire for strength, for achievement, for adequacy and for independence and desire for recognition, for importance, for attention and for reputation or prestige. Satisfaction of esteem needs makes possible feelings of self confidence and worth including the feeling of being useful.

Self actualisation needs

This is a high level need, expressed by a teacher when he teaches, by the artist when he paints, by the musician when he plays or sings when the doctor cures the disease and cares for his patient. Continuous satisfaction of this need leads to ultimate happiness. It is not a life of leisure that brings about happiness, but rather a life in which the individual achieves what he wants. In brief people are motivated to act in accordance with lofty ideals and principles based on their ambitions in life. Such motivational forces may be according to the philosophy of life that the individual holds and may even sacrifice many of the other needs and interests for the sake of the high principles and goals that he values.

Needs motivate behaviour. The individual is pushed towards goals within his enviornment. He uses various adjustment mechanisms to resolve his rival motives or conflicts expecially the socially disirable defensive mechanicm, Thus his behaviour becomes more and more patterned and he achieves new goals, which are in harmony with his needs and interests. He gains self control and self management. He develops interests and favourable attitudes. He achieves a wholeness or balance of emotions and desires. Through his action he gains perfectness and becomes mature.

Remember, every body has to face the realities of life. Face it with boldness make your own satisfactory adjustments and achieve a sound victory with the firm belief in our Lord and God. No doubt He will be your friend, philosopher and guide.

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